TamilMatrimony

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• Resident status (work permit, student visa, citizen, temporary visa)
• Physical status (normal, physically challenged)
• Complexion (fair, very fair, wheatish, wheatish brown, dark)
• Profile created by (self, parents, siblings, relatives, friends)
• Occupation… nonprofit is not an option.

To humour certain family members who think TamilMatrimony.com would be an appropriate online “dating” site for me, and because I was certain it would make good blog fodder, I decided to try a realistic search for myself.  Not just because I’m Tamil, but also because according to them (bharatmatrimony is the umbrella org):

Initial impressions, check out the default search options.  See if you can spot the difference!

So continuing to play along, I tried to pick the options that would be the most likely to reveal someone I would get along with and bring me down to a manageable number: New York, profile created by self, unmarried (the default option), with photo, and citizen since they’re more likely to have been in the US for a while…

I managed to get myself from thousands down to 169.

I’ve regretfully decided that posting photos would be mean, but the first photo that came up, my “featured profile,” was wearing black sunglasses though.  In his words…

I am looking for a simple and honest life partner from a decent family. Please go through my profile and see whether I can be a potential match for you.

Therefore, I describe a happy family just like a healthy plant, if I give water, sun and air, it blossoms.

Even better, according  to the standard questions on his profile… his blood type is AB (my favorite kind!!!), his family is of type “nuclear” (also my favorite kind!!!), his dad’s occupation is “business” and his mom’s is housewife.  His preferred dress style (yes, it’s a standard question!) is “casual wear”.

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Sorting through a lot of one sentence profiles, preferred dress casual AND formal (!!!) this seems to be the best option for me!  I especially love strict and serious life people.

I am a fun loving, outspoken, traditional, God fearing and caring individual. I am very strict and serious when it comes to life, I love watching movies, playing games, and spend the time with my family.

I was born and brought up in the suburb of Kolkata until 1996 and since then We are living in the city of New York. Currently, We own a house and an apartment in NYC and Kolkata respectively

We have day to day contacts with all the friends and brothers and sisters and cousins of my parents and mine living in different places of U.S. and India. I am very much involved with all such sensitivity as expected from a grass-rooted Bengali.

My parents would return to Kolkata ASAP and I also intend to return to India within a few years although nothing has yet been finalised. This is most important to note before proceeding for a marital relation.

I am the only child of my parents and I love and respect them more than anything. I would like my partner to be the same way and very caring and understanding. Since marriage is a knot between two families, it is very much necessary to know each other as much as possible..

Now, I will admit that I did not take the effort to filter my options even further.  I can filter by interests!  For example, I could pick someone who is “humorous” (the others are all strict and serious), or a Teetotaler!  Or perhaps someone who is “well settled” (I don’t even know what that means).

• Family oriented (128)
• Well educated (117)
• Health conscious (107)
• Loves music (106)
• Loves food (104)
• Ardent Reader (86)
• Nature lover (86)
• Humorous (84)
• Teetotaler (69)
• Affectionate (59)
• Down to earth (52)
• Romantic (50)
• Passion for photography (41)
• Spiritual (29)
• Well settled (29)
• Artistic (22)
• Loves pets (14)
• Loves poetry (8)

For the sake of this blog, I then peruse some of the “post by parents”.

Despite 23 years abroad, firm roots in Indian culture and values. Strict vegetarian, non smoker and teetotaller.

MBA from UC, Berkeley, MS from UC, Irvine, BS from UT, Austin, Texas, all with distinction and honors.

Currently, Director, MNC, San Francisco.

Family:

We are Upper middle class Brahmin Iyer family., ready to marry into any respectable and cultured Tamil speaking Brahmin family. Father of boy held leadership positions in Government and later in private sector and retired as CEO, MNC, Malaysia. Mother, MA, MLitt, BEd, all in Economics, is home maker. Younger brother , BS, MBA, VP in MNC in USA., is happily married to Iyer girl, working as Director in MNC,USA.

Looking for:

Life partner, committed to marriage as a lifelong pleasant and permanent relationship, open minded, frank, not moody, not secretive, out going, cheerful, compassionate, caring, loving, accommodative, quickly identifying herself with family of husband, family oriented, wants to have children and family, where ready to play lead role, modern and yet practicing our religion, customs and practices at required situations and functions, firm belief in God, respecting and supportive of elders and eager to bring up children with vegetarian food habits and our religious values, customs and practices, supportive of research pursuits of husband, ready to live always with husband at his place and permanently in USA.

Horoscope match a must!!  (this is a complex procedure where you hire an astrologer to look at your day, time, etc of birth and compare it to the other person’s to decide if this is a good match…)  And at the very, very, bottom of the entire profile after reading about siblings, family, favorite cuisine and type of dress, a reiteration of the parents’ desires, there is one little paragraph:

Boy is looking for an understanding and adjusting life companion, with whom he can build a family and a trusted relationship and a life together of their own, an open, understanding and an accommodative person, who can be a source of inspiration and happiness.

I wish them all the best!  I’m pretty sure the man of my dreams is not waiting around on TamilMatrimony.com.  However, he could be on OverweightShaadi.com!